“Beware the preachers. Beware the knowers. Beware those who are always reading books. Beware those who either detest poverty or are proud of it. Beware those quick to praise for they need praise in return. Beware those who are quick to censor, they are afraid of what they do not know. Beware those who seek constant crowds for they are nothing alone. Beware the average man, the average woman; beware their love. Their love is average and seeks average”
- Charles Bukowski (freaky, intelligent and especially …alcoholic, hic!)
Quit beating around the bush, people. I know some people suffer from low self-esteem, but most of the people I’ve met tend to diminish themselves and their opinions to blend in and find acceptance. Fuck acceptance by the general public. Fuck being passive.
The general public can fit in easily on either side of this scale. Most people are either black or white on their perspectives. Don’t be black or white on you what you want and deserve. Confidence is incredibly irresistable. Insist that your needs are met and cease being a pushover about it.
I think one of the biggest causes of failed relationships and boring sex lives is communication. Not “we don’t talk enough” communication, but the kind of communication that involves honesty. People talk plenty in their relationships, they just don’t talk openly. People walk around with their thin skin, set themselves up for their own failure, and then blame someone else for their hurt feelings. Why lie to yourselves? Why set the object of your affection up for failure over a few little tears? Regardless of your gender – Man up! I’m not suggesting being insensitive about it (though that is often my approach), but I am suggesting you deliver the truth while clearing conveying your expectations.
I have been through enough to know that beating around the bush doesn’t help anyone. Yes, you can avoid the emotional display by the wounded party; however, you will likely face another right around the bend. It is merely a temporary relief. Men are mostly to blame for this. They can’t bear the wrath of their women. Women know and understand this, use it as a clear avenue to gain control in the relationship and further manipulate a man. It is safe to say that the more powerful and dominant a woman, the more she desires your assertiveness. A dominant woman will probably jock you for position but she’s surely enjoying the wrestle. Men are similar in this regard. A strong man does not often appreciate weakness in a woman. They want you to take control sometimes, but it is emasculating for you to maintain that position. A man’s pride is a sensitive thing, but most of their reasoning depends on logic. Fervidm.